Helping your Children Cope with Your Divorce

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The transition has started.

Perhaps you’re separated. This happens in phases and you’re asking yourself questions like “Is this the end of a normal family life?”

Remember: your children have the same questions.

You are creating the new normal for them. Try not to change too much of their routine the first year. It will be hard enough for them to go back and forth between two households (and hopefully they are doing this! Children need both their mother and father).

Try to ease the burden by packing fun things to do at mom or dad’s house. Heck, go to the dollar store and buy toys and games then you have something fun to talk about then they come back to you: “Did you have fun coloring at dad’s house?” or “What’s mom able to help you with that crossword puzzle?”

This helps to alleviate some anxiety that a parent may be angry about the time they spend with the other. Children need both parents in their lives.

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Divorce, children and the importance of asking questions

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You know how when you are going through a divorce, you can’t help asking yourself questions like “Could I have done something differently?” or “What will everyone think?” or “How will my life change in the future?”

Well, your children have the same questions and how they answer those questions for themselves may not be logical or based in any reality. Of course, the emotional distress of a divorce may cause the same lack of logic in you.

So whatever questions you are asking yourself, ask your children the same questions but in a different manner. This will get a dialogue going with them to allay their fears. For example: “Are you worried about what your friends are thinking since daddy and mommy are not living in the same house?”

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Talking to Children about Divorce

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Obviously, there are different ways to talk to children about divorce and the approach will change depending on their developmental level.

But at all ages you should do everything you can to keep the message simple and understandable. Say things to reassure them, like “Mommy and Daddy will be happier and argue a lot less in two different homes” and “you will not have to move but you will have two houses where you will be loved.” Address things like: their safety is important to both of you and how important they are to both of you.

Divorce is hard enough as it is, see to it that your child’s life is not interrupted. Don’t let them have to change schools or interrupt daily routines.

If you are going through a divorce find out how Brown Law, P.L. can help. Information about our approach to divorce and family law  is available at our website.

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7 Small Things That Can Make Divorce A Little Less Stressful

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The stress of a divorce can be overwhelming, in this article Huffington Post recommends seven steps that might be able to help.

“Nothing prepares you for the emotional and financial drain of divorce. No matter how amicable you and your ex are determined to be, there are bound to be headaches and heartache during and after the divorce process, especially if you share kids.

That doesn’t mean there aren’t small steps you can take to make divorce and co-parenting a little less stressful. To that end, we recently asked HuffPost Divorce readers and bloggers to share how they solved some of the weightiest problems they faced during or after divorce. From communicating with exes solely through email (at least initially), to taking their kids to play therapy, read what’s working in their divorces below.”

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