Helping your Children Cope with Your Divorce

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The transition has started.

Perhaps you’re separated. This happens in phases and you’re asking yourself questions like “Is this the end of a normal family life?”

Remember: your children have the same questions.

You are creating the new normal for them. Try not to change too much of their routine the first year. It will be hard enough for them to go back and forth between two households (and hopefully they are doing this! Children need both their mother and father).

Try to ease the burden by packing fun things to do at mom or dad’s house. Heck, go to the dollar store and buy toys and games then you have something fun to talk about then they come back to you: “Did you have fun coloring at dad’s house?” or “What’s mom able to help you with that crossword puzzle?”

This helps to alleviate some anxiety that a parent may be angry about the time they spend with the other. Children need both parents in their lives.

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Divorce, children and the importance of asking questions

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You know how when you are going through a divorce, you can’t help asking yourself questions like “Could I have done something differently?” or “What will everyone think?” or “How will my life change in the future?”

Well, your children have the same questions and how they answer those questions for themselves may not be logical or based in any reality. Of course, the emotional distress of a divorce may cause the same lack of logic in you.

So whatever questions you are asking yourself, ask your children the same questions but in a different manner. This will get a dialogue going with them to allay their fears. For example: “Are you worried about what your friends are thinking since daddy and mommy are not living in the same house?”

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Social Media and the Law

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How is the law adapting to the integral role social media plays in our daily lives? Huffington Post’s Brad Reid considers how it is impacting the U.S. legal environment. For Personal Injury Litigation, photos or videos on social media “provide evidence that may either confirm or dispute an asserted physical injury or emotional distress.”

Personal Injury Litigation

1. Social media provides evidence that may either confirm or dispute an asserted physical injury or emotional distress. Photos of physical activity and apparent happiness may undermine claims.
2. Evidence of stalking, invasion of privacy, and infliction of emotional distress may be provided by social media.
3. Sometimes professionals, such as police or health care providers, inappropriately distribute video of accidents or medical procedures, or are recorded mocking victims.
4. As an additional example, traffic accident litigation may be supported by social media content that demonstrates intoxication or reckless conduct.

In Divorce and Family Law violations of custody orders and “evidence of assets, job prospects and resources” can be found through platforms from Facebook to Twitter.

Divorce and Family Law

1. Evidence of affairs is provided by social media such as the Internet, Facebook, and Dating Services.
2. On-line commentary by spouses and children indicate state of mind, both positive and negative, and fitness to have custody.
3. Evidence of assets, job prospects and resources may be available.
4. Violation of custody orders and travel restrictions may be provided by photos and vacation information.
5. Violation of protective orders and stalking may occur through “pokes,” “friend requests,” and Tweets.
6. A variety of Facebook or Internet friendships may indicate potential bias and connections by experts, professionals, and others who may testify.

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Talking to Children about Divorce

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Obviously, there are different ways to talk to children about divorce and the approach will change depending on their developmental level.

But at all ages you should do everything you can to keep the message simple and understandable. Say things to reassure them, like “Mommy and Daddy will be happier and argue a lot less in two different homes” and “you will not have to move but you will have two houses where you will be loved.” Address things like: their safety is important to both of you and how important they are to both of you.

Divorce is hard enough as it is, see to it that your child’s life is not interrupted. Don’t let them have to change schools or interrupt daily routines.

If you are going through a divorce find out how Brown Law, P.L. can help. Information about our approach to divorce and family law  is available at our website.

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22 Books Everyone Should Read During Divorce

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Huffington Post recommends 22 books you should read during a divorce:

“There’s nothing like finding escape in a good book — and that’s especially true when going through a separation or divorce. (There’s only so much crying into crumpled Kleenex you can do; at some point, you need to give yourself a mental break.)

To that end, we recently asked HuffPost Divorce bloggers and readers to share with us the books that helped them heal after their divorces. Read some of the best recommendations below.”

If you’re in the central Florida area and going through a divorce, Brown Law, P.L. may be able to help you. More about our approach to divorce can be found on our website.

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407-344-3400 | www.brownlawpl.com

5 Positive Lessons My Divorce Taught Me for Future Relationships

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More insight into some lessons learned through divorce from the Huffington Post. Learning “how to speak your truth” and realizing that “loving someone is a choice.”

“I recently had lunch with a freshly-divorced friend. We hadn’t spoken in awhile, so throughout the meal I got the typical rundown of Things-That-Went-Wrong, Qualities-My-Next-Partner-Must-Have (typically, everything his ex-wife was NOT) and How-Could-I-Have-Been-So-Blind realizations. I understood; I’ve certainly been in that place, and know many divorced friends who’ve similarly dealt with these same issues. Change is hard, divorce is a major transition and emotions are not always logical.”

If you’re in the central Florida area and going through a divorce find out how Brown Law, P.L. can help you. Find out more about our approach to divorce at our website.

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